Don't Say It

"We can just get a divorce!" Many couples lash out these words at each other at the slightest offense.  What a powerful declaration! We open our mouths and hearts to accept the thing that God says that He hates (Malachi 2:16).  We release these words into our relationships, into our homes.  For believers, it grieves the heart of God. 

My husband and I were talking about how powerful words are.  We underestimate them at times.  And we speak in haste and out of emotion.  Sometimes, we speak without thinking.  The Word of God tells us that life and death are in the power of our tongues.   We possess such amazing power to change our lives and destinies, through our words.  The Lord clearly warns us to be slow to speak.  We must handle words very carefully, because they are spirit.

In fact, the word "divorce" means dividing the power.  God has empowered a married couple as a dynamic team that can put 10,000 evil spirits to flight. And satan has devised a scheme to halt it.  He causes us to use our greatest weapon against ourselves - our tongues.  Divorce causes us to lose some of our power.  So why would we want to fling this word around so flippantly? 

My husband and I have made a pledge to not allow the spirit of divorce in our marriage.  We refuse to threaten each other with it, no matter how angry we get.  And that has changed the whole dynamic of our relationship.  It has increased our commitment and our love walk. 

I heard a preacher say that in some rural parts of Botswana, Africa, there is NO divorce, because they don't have a word for it.  That is so powerful.  Since there is no word for it, it doesn't exist.  It can't be called forth to destroy families. 

Let us eliminate the word "divorce" as an option or a threat.  Decide that it won't exist among your family. Agree together, that you won't speak it in your marriage. Your commitment will increase and your ability to problem solve will be greater, and your love life will evolve.  True love is patient and longsuffering.  It is not selfish or unkind.  It is unconditional.  It is a forever love.  It never ever fails. (I Corinthians 13).

When you are upset or in the heat of emotion, choose new life-giving words.  Be angry and sin not. In other words, don't say it!