They proceeded to clean the burned area and after it dried
they applied a special cream for this type of injury. They wrapped his arm in
gauze and then explained to us that we would have to be very intentional regarding
the care for the next week or so.
They were glad we brought him into the emergency room when
we did, they had seen many cases like this where people thought they could just
apply whatever they had at home in their own medicine cabinets and later suffered
a worse effect due to infection. Some even suffered things as bad as gangrene
and had to have that area of the body cut out or even amputated. What a
relief to know we took care of the issue before it had gotten worse.
All of our marriages experience times of hurt, pain and
injury, leaving them in need of emergency attention. Over the course of our
marriage, we have found that there are a few different ways in approaching
these types of injuries. Often times we choose to ignore them all together,
hoping to keep the peace. Our pain receptors become so injured that our
response is numbness. We then sweep the issues under the rug with the thought
that one day they will dissipate into thin air and never plague or marriage
again. Or maybe ignoring issues is not your style, and you’d rather choose to
handle things yourself. Allowing the popular teaching “what goes on in the
house, stays in the house” to become your basis of taking matters into your own
hands. We can also tend to find value in sharing our marital dysfunctions with
an outside source. Only to find out that it’s not the sharing but who you share
with that makes all the difference. It wouldn’t have been beneficial to take
our son to Chuck E. Cheese or to Toys R Us, when those places don’t provide the
type of assistance we needed at that particular time. In the end, we have found
that the starting point in the healing process of our marriage is getting the
issue to the right help.
The right help is able to provide the treatment necessary to
begin the healing process and then lead you in the direction of a healthy
married life. We’ve found that the take home instructions from the right help
are the catalysts to prevent further injury and produce health and healing. The
Bible says in Proverbs 11:14 (MSG) Without good direction, people lose their
way; the more wise counsel you follow, the better your chances.
God has designed our lives, and proven through scripture
that a life with the right help is a life inspired to do better. We must begin
to identify the people around us who exhibit the fullness of the mind of Christ
and maximize these potential opportunities that add Godly value in our
marriages.
There is an innumerable value to finding the right help from
the right people; furthermore, it is the application that separates the good
marriages from the great ones.
We look forward to continuing with part II of this entry:
“Apply Liberally.”
