Our society is saturated with sexual images and innuendos. So you can hardly escape 24 hours where there is not some image or reference made to illicit sexual relationships (homosexuality, adultery, fornication, masturbation, pornography or any other perversion). Our culture glorifies it, plays it down, or laughs at it, to make it more comfortable and acceptable; and slip it into our consciousness.
So as believers, we step into marriage not really knowing what is acceptable. Most young couples drag whatever sexual hang-ups they had pre “I Do” right into the marriage. Many couples were involved in fornication before they were married, not fully understanding that lust is a spirit. Saying, “I Do” doesn’t deliver one from lust. Lust transforms from fornication; it is revealed as a porn addiction, flirtation, voyeurism or even adultery.
God intended sex to be a beautiful symphony of two becoming one in their thoughts, emotions, and physical bodies. This intimacy evokes a godly soul tie between husband and wife. He wants couples to fully enjoy one another. We can see the beauty of sex demonstrated in the Song of Solomon.
So what should a couple do?
• Couples should take time to repent of their premarital sins to God and to one another. Be honest about ungodly thoughts and images during your time of physical intimacy. Seek deliverance from lust and sexual addictions.
• Ask God to purify your sexual relationship. Be committed to it. Keep your thoughts on one another. Do not watch “X” or “R” rated movies (for sexual content).
• Couples usually avoid sex talk. But it is vital for a healthy relationship. Talk about your fears and struggles with each other. Also talk about what you enjoy.
• Invite God into your bedroom. It is really a good thing to pray before sex. Ask God to bless your time of intimacy. (Remember sex was God’s idea). You may find yourself more relaxed and free to enjoy your spouse.
Below is a list of sexual behaviors that do not glorify God in your relationship:
Adultery (Deuteronomy 5:18, Proverbs 6:32, Hebrews 13:4)
Bestiality (Leviticus 20:15-16)
Frigidity (I Corinthians 7:2-5)
Homosexuality (Leviticus 20:13, Leviticus 18:22, Romans 1:26-27)
Pornography (Matt 5:27-28, Romans 1:32)
Prolonged abstinence (I Corinthians 7:5)
Rape (Deuteronomy 22:25-28)
Sodomy (I Corinthians 6:9)
Swinging (I Corinthians 7:2,4)
Voyeurism (Matt 5:27-28, Romans 1:32)
This list is not exhaustive. However it can help guide couples in their sexual union.
