Tuesday, March 30, 2010

Why Did I Get Married

Why did I get married? At some point in your marriage, you will ask this question. To leave it unanswered, could be detrimental. Some may say they got married because they were pregnant at the time.  Some will answer with, "I thought I was in love".  Others answer that they needed financial support, or they had just been together for a long time, etc., etc. The list can be exhaustive.

However to properly answer this question, it requires that we go back to the original intent of marriage. We got married, because marriage was God's idea. We just aren't that spiritual. The idea of marriage came from heaven. God dropped it into the earth. He wanted a replica of His relationship to the church. And so it was. We ventured out until we found someone that we wanted to be married to.. and the rest is history. We got married because God had a good idea. And we embraced it.

Couples seem to falling by the wayside in groves. Why is it so hard for couples to stay married? If marriage was God's idea, why don't marriages last?

Marriages don't last because we don't have a proper understanding. We don't know the purpose of it. So when things don't go as we imagine, we think that we are supposed to jump ship and abandon the relationship.  We enter marriage number 2 hoping for the same goal. And we just keep getting disappointed.

As believers we must understand and embrace suffering in our relationship with our Bridegroom. In the same way, husbands and wives will also suffer. If we expect it, we won't be shocked when it comes. Marriage prepares us for heaven. It helps us to shed our selfish, sinful nature. It helps to learn to become one with another person. God is looking for glory. As we submit to the stripping of the flesh, we allow glory to be revealed. Matrimony was meant to be holy. 

So don't abandon your marriage vows just because you hit a rough patch.  Work through it.  There is no such thing as a challenge-free relationship.  Marriage is made up of two human beings.  That automatically presents a challenge.  God has fully equipped you to be able to get through whatever obstacles present themselves.  For better or for worse keep your word to Him to stay married for a lifetime!